In which we dig through the internet for our favorite articles related to wholeness and healing in relationships:
WANT TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP? START PAYING ATTENTION TO BIDS via Gottman Institute
I am sure you are wondering what is meant by “bids?” Per John Gotten and Robert Levenson, bids are requests to connect. It is very easy for a person to get lost, caught up, or overwhelmed by his or her own agendas and schedules. This sea of responsibility may overshadow the nurturing needs of the individual’s personal relationships. By asking simple questions, making verbal or non-verbal gestures of expressions that require the engagement of the other is a simple, “bid” if you will to pay specific attention to that individual. Read to see how you can bid your way to reconnecting with a loved one.
How young is too young for adults as well as couples to begin seeking therapy as an additional relationship tool? What are ways in which you have been encouraged or discouraged about therapy as it relates to you individual self-care or that of a very personal and intimate relationship with a loved one? Have you every thought of giving your relationship some therapeutic support, no matter how new or not so new it is? Lastly, does anything have to be going wrong in the relationship in order for therapy to be suggested, introduced, and initiated? Food for thought!